I got a personal note on Facebook a few months ago from a person very dear to me. A younger Mom. She wrote “I know you love The Lord, your children, and that you have a house full of little blessings too! This mommy is having a hard time balancing everything….any tips?!?” As I was pondering and praying about how to respond, it occurred to me that so many of my posts to Facebook give a very positive view of my life.
I don’t talk about the negative much, because I figure nobody wants to read about my never-ending-laundry pile or argumentative tween (just to name a couple.) But in doing this, I may be giving off the false impression that I “have it all together,” or at least “think I have it all together.” This is definitely not true!
In fact, I see this as one of the great problems of social media. Our social media posts, meant to share the highlights of our lives — can actually cause feelings of inferiority, depression and anxiety in the lives of other mothers whom we have led to believe that our lives are perfect. After a short bit on Facebook or Pinterest, it is so easy to become convinced that “I don’t measure up.”
Balance is so hard! Never let Facebook fool you into thinking that someone else has a happier home then yours or has everything spic and span, or always does everything right all the time. Social media is deceptive that way. We all want to post the happy, positive moments, and we don’t want to share the nitty, gritty, or negative moments (or read them). Then we get lulled into thinking that “so and so” has a better (fill in the blank with house, car, kids, husband, memory, education, life…) Not so.
God has put us each where we are to be in that moment with our kids, our husband, our friends, and our family.
A group of my friends in the Inspired Bloggers Network have joined together this week to reveal publicly our Imperfect Lives. We hope that these posts will encourage you and inspire you to be content wherever God has placed you in life. As part of this series, I have been posting pictures of my Imperfect Life to Facebook and have seen quite a response!
I am definitely not the only person around with dirty dishes on the counter, piles of laundry waiting to be folded, and stacks of “stuff” in those catch all places of my home. This is my real life. I have things that I do pretty well and I have things I don’t do very well at all.
Will the Mom Who Has it All Together Please Throw the First Stone?
I don’t think so. Because the truth is that none of us has it all together. The Mom who has it all together does not exist except on television. Maybe you cannot relate to my issues with laundry and housework, but you can relate to sin. No matter how perfect you might seem on Facebook, I know this to be true, because Romans 3:23 says “All have sinned and fall short of the Glory of God.”
God didn’t make us perfect yet, but He made us to be in relationship. In order to be in relationship with each other — we need to be real. And in order to be real, we need to be willing to reveal our Imperfect Lives to each other.