The house is quiet, and my husband is walking around the room getting ready for work at five a.m. Everyone else is asleep, but we are deep in conversation. That is because this time of day is just about the only time we can have deep conversation! I make every effort to wake up when my husband starts stirring around the room because I know he wants to talk to me about his day, his week, and life — and I want to talk to him too!
Grandma is visiting, and the sound of cheerful game play echos through the house. It’s some new version of monopoly my daughter got from a friend and it is keeping the household busy this afternoon. My husband and I head out on a date — eating at a Mongolian BBQ and grocery shopping 🙂 Some people laugh when I tell them that we went grocery shopping on our date, but other homeschoolers know how hard it is to fit that in during the week.
Plus, when Grandma babysits it is free and she is happy about it. For a long time, the only time my husband went out on dates was when one of the grandmas was visiting. These days my 13 year old is a trained babysitter and we try to slip out for a meal a couple times a month just to re-group and have leadership planning sessions…
We recognize how important it is to have time as a couple, but that doesn’t make it easier in a house full of children! By 5:30 a.m., my three year old twins are climbing into my bed ready to cuddle and start the day. My husband heads out the door by 6 and my day spirals into busy activity. By the time he arrives home everyone is tired, cranky, and high maintenance.
Everyone wants Daddy’s attention. But, I want my husband’s attention. He isn’t my Daddy, he’s my man. So we do make time together a priority and a habit.
- We plan dates twice a month.
- We purpose to have those talks in the a.m.
- We talk on the phone at least daily while he is traveling.
- I make sure he sits down for a back rub after a long day at work.
The key word is the verb: purpose.